Hello, Good Sports!
We're right smack in a busy fall sports season, enjoying not just football and soccer -- who can forget that the major league baseball playoffs are in full swing (awful pun, sadly intended)!
During this weekend there's something on TV or a sport to go to for almost any sports fan! Could there ever be a better time to think about Good and Bad Sportsmanship or see it in action?
I wanted to share a great article I came across about the S.T.A.R.S. Sportsmanship Iniative.
STARS stands for Student-Athletes Advancing Respect through Sports.
According to the article, the program was developed by America East "...based on the underlying belief that good sportsmanship habits must be instilled in athletes at a young age."
(America East is an NCAA Division I conference with a commitment to broad-based, competitive athletics programs, complementing the academic integrity and missions of the member institutions. It has nine member institutions: University at Albany, Binghamton University, Boston University, University of Hartford, University of Maine, UMBC, University of New Hampshire, Stony Brook University and University of Vermont.)
Through the STARS initiative, young athletes will be invited to special events where they will meet college student atheletes. Events and activities include:
* Attending a sportsmanship school where young athletes will learn about good sportsmanship and receive a certificate to show they graduated
* Youth athletes attending campus sporting event alongside college student-athletes to learn how to root for their team respectfully
* Youth athletes participating in a collegiate pre-game handshake line so they understand the importance of treating opponents with respect
* Publicly recognizing youth athletes who have demonstrated good sportsmanship on and off the field
* Youth athletes reading the America East sportsmanship pledge over the public address system prior to games
Congratulations to America East for putting such an important focus on good sportsmanship and young athletes.
Leslie
P.S. I was interviewed for an article by PBS.org about good sportsmanship because the author came across my book The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship. I'll let you know when it is posted.
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Monday, September 6, 2010
Fall Good Sportsmanship Reminder
Dear Good Sports:
As families start their fall sports, I thought it was a great idea to post these comments from the Boonsboro Soccer League as a handy reminder for parents and children everywhere:
A good sports program is one that will not only teach children the basics of the game, but one that will teach children to respect one another, be good sportsmen and good athletes, a good person to everyone they meet ... A well rounded athlete will learn how to deal with everyday problems and be a more courteous and civil person as well as player on the field. They will not be as aggressive or hog the ball when others want to play.
There are times when a little aggression is needed in any sport in order to make a goal or get past an opponent for a score. But there are other times when aggression is not warranted anywhere on the field or off and penalties and consequences are dolled out to players who play too rough. It’s a coach’s job to make sure player realize that aggressive behavior is not what a game is all about. Soccer is a game of fun and the main reason most of the kids join a team. Winning is nice, but it is not everything."
Of course this was written for a Soccer League but it's a great reminder for all sports teams about how to act, and that how you act on the field can carry over into how you act in life.
Boonsboro Soccer League feels their league "...teaches respect for one another as well as oneself while building the players self confidence and playing skills ... Having the basic skills as a soccer player is good, but having team spirit, sportsmanship and the willingness to allow other players to take the spotlight once in a while is a mark of a great athlete and a team player."
Lots of good stuff to remember as football, soccer, field hockey and more start!
Leslie
P.S. If you have children or grandchildren ages 4 to 8, our book The Kids' (and Parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship is very popular for parents and children to read together.
As families start their fall sports, I thought it was a great idea to post these comments from the Boonsboro Soccer League as a handy reminder for parents and children everywhere:
A good sports program is one that will not only teach children the basics of the game, but one that will teach children to respect one another, be good sportsmen and good athletes, a good person to everyone they meet ... A well rounded athlete will learn how to deal with everyday problems and be a more courteous and civil person as well as player on the field. They will not be as aggressive or hog the ball when others want to play.
There are times when a little aggression is needed in any sport in order to make a goal or get past an opponent for a score. But there are other times when aggression is not warranted anywhere on the field or off and penalties and consequences are dolled out to players who play too rough. It’s a coach’s job to make sure player realize that aggressive behavior is not what a game is all about. Soccer is a game of fun and the main reason most of the kids join a team. Winning is nice, but it is not everything."
Of course this was written for a Soccer League but it's a great reminder for all sports teams about how to act, and that how you act on the field can carry over into how you act in life.
Boonsboro Soccer League feels their league "...teaches respect for one another as well as oneself while building the players self confidence and playing skills ... Having the basic skills as a soccer player is good, but having team spirit, sportsmanship and the willingness to allow other players to take the spotlight once in a while is a mark of a great athlete and a team player."
Lots of good stuff to remember as football, soccer, field hockey and more start!
Leslie
P.S. If you have children or grandchildren ages 4 to 8, our book The Kids' (and Parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship is very popular for parents and children to read together.
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Lacrosse in full swing, US tops bad sportsmanship list
Dear Good Sports,
How are you? Here in the Good Sports house, Spring Sports are in full swing, and our book, The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship, is proving to be the little engine that could! That's been very great news, but it means I've been so busy that I have been very bad keeping up with posting here!
We had the younger Good Sport Daughter's lacrosse game today. It's the second one and it's amazing how the girls are really picking up the game this year in 5th and 6th grade. It was quite windy and chilly but we survived. (If you can believe it, it was 49 degrees but an ice cream truck kept circling the field. Not a single girl asked for ice cream!) Good Sport Dad is the coach and has been laboring over the rotation. He got an official jacket this year, complete with his name embroidered on the sleeve. We are still working on the team cheer. They're saying something -- but it's not quite clear what.
The older Good Sport daughter has been learning tennis over the winter and is excited to start playing outside for a change. The whole family has been going over to the Valley Forge Military Academy track to run (Dad & daughters) and walk (me).
But while all this nice, calm, happy stuff has been going on, I found out that there was a recent Reuter/Ipsos poll that bad behavior by parents at youth sporting events is more likely to occur in the United States than in any other country.
Ugh!
A quote by John Wright, senior vice president of Ipsos: It's ironic that the United States, which prides itself on being the most civilized country in the world, has the largest group of adults having witnessed abusive behavior at children's sports events. There is clearly a fine line between participatory enthusiasm and abuse and parents, as role models, have got to keep in mind and keep themselves in check for the sake of their children.
And, at the same time this week, we had the story out of a Phillies game that an abusive fan allegedly vomited on an off duty police officer and his young daughter.
So -- as we start to enjoy all our Spring sports, don't forget to remember what kind of behavior is acceptable -- and what isn't. (Then, maybe next year we might not top the list!)
Leslie
P.S. We've started offering The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship as a fundraiser. If you're interested for your team or township, please email us for more information.
How are you? Here in the Good Sports house, Spring Sports are in full swing, and our book, The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship, is proving to be the little engine that could! That's been very great news, but it means I've been so busy that I have been very bad keeping up with posting here!
We had the younger Good Sport Daughter's lacrosse game today. It's the second one and it's amazing how the girls are really picking up the game this year in 5th and 6th grade. It was quite windy and chilly but we survived. (If you can believe it, it was 49 degrees but an ice cream truck kept circling the field. Not a single girl asked for ice cream!) Good Sport Dad is the coach and has been laboring over the rotation. He got an official jacket this year, complete with his name embroidered on the sleeve. We are still working on the team cheer. They're saying something -- but it's not quite clear what.
The older Good Sport daughter has been learning tennis over the winter and is excited to start playing outside for a change. The whole family has been going over to the Valley Forge Military Academy track to run (Dad & daughters) and walk (me).
But while all this nice, calm, happy stuff has been going on, I found out that there was a recent Reuter/Ipsos poll that bad behavior by parents at youth sporting events is more likely to occur in the United States than in any other country.
Ugh!
A quote by John Wright, senior vice president of Ipsos: It's ironic that the United States, which prides itself on being the most civilized country in the world, has the largest group of adults having witnessed abusive behavior at children's sports events. There is clearly a fine line between participatory enthusiasm and abuse and parents, as role models, have got to keep in mind and keep themselves in check for the sake of their children.
And, at the same time this week, we had the story out of a Phillies game that an abusive fan allegedly vomited on an off duty police officer and his young daughter.
So -- as we start to enjoy all our Spring sports, don't forget to remember what kind of behavior is acceptable -- and what isn't. (Then, maybe next year we might not top the list!)
Leslie
P.S. We've started offering The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship as a fundraiser. If you're interested for your team or township, please email us for more information.
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Good Sportsmanship in ... Science
Hello, Good Sports!
Today I want to switch gears and write just a little bit about Good Sportsmanship -- not in Sports, but in Science!
I came across an article about a District High School Science Olympiad Tournament where the winning team gave the second place team a standing ovation during the awards ceremony.
It would have been easy -- and human nature -- for the winning team to celebrate their win and not even think about the other team (except for maybe some polite applause or an unfortunate boo). They'd studied hard and deserved their win. But the fact that they looked outside of themselves and the situation to honor a worthy opponent says worlds about their character and the adults who have guided them over the years.
(I forgot to say that only two points separated the two teams from each other, and the win could have very easily gone the other way!)
I imagine it made the second place team feel better about their performance by having their hard work recognized by the winners and also giving them a well-deserved moment of celebration. After all, although they lost, they had studied hard to get to the Olympiad, and their participation was deserving of a place in the spotlight, too.
So, being a Good Sport doesn't just happen on the playing field. It's values and behaviors that we and our children can use all throughout life!
And that's my little post about Good Sportsmanship and Science! I just had to squeeze it in while it was still fresh in my mind before the Olympics start tomorrow!
Leslie
Today I want to switch gears and write just a little bit about Good Sportsmanship -- not in Sports, but in Science!
I came across an article about a District High School Science Olympiad Tournament where the winning team gave the second place team a standing ovation during the awards ceremony.
It would have been easy -- and human nature -- for the winning team to celebrate their win and not even think about the other team (except for maybe some polite applause or an unfortunate boo). They'd studied hard and deserved their win. But the fact that they looked outside of themselves and the situation to honor a worthy opponent says worlds about their character and the adults who have guided them over the years.
(I forgot to say that only two points separated the two teams from each other, and the win could have very easily gone the other way!)
I imagine it made the second place team feel better about their performance by having their hard work recognized by the winners and also giving them a well-deserved moment of celebration. After all, although they lost, they had studied hard to get to the Olympiad, and their participation was deserving of a place in the spotlight, too.
So, being a Good Sport doesn't just happen on the playing field. It's values and behaviors that we and our children can use all throughout life!
And that's my little post about Good Sportsmanship and Science! I just had to squeeze it in while it was still fresh in my mind before the Olympics start tomorrow!
Leslie
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Good Press for Good Sportsmanship
Dear Good Sports,
I wanted to share a review by Perry Perkins, a writer for the Portland Examiner, of The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship, here.
Perry had expressed an interest in seeing a copy of the book, and I was very excited when he contacted me with his review much sooner than I expected. I can't thank him enough!
Word about the book is starting to spread via cutting edge technology (press releases on the web, links, blogs, forums) and simple, practical efforts (one of the Good Sport daughters and I spent the afternoon dropping off book marks at two libraries, the grocery store, a pizzeria, and a toy store, while last week a book store took some actual books to sell). I'm planning a fundraising kit offering the book, a discount that goes to the event and a Good Sport Bad Sport water bottle that I hope to start offering to day cares, schools and sports associations.
(Speaking of cutting edge technology, it's allowing me to multi-task right now by blogging on the web while we watch the New Orleans Saints and the Vikings play for the NFC championship. Not sure who I want to win because the Good Sport Aunt and Uncle and Cousins are transplants to New Orleans ... but the Vikings have their Brett Farve story. And I like purple.)
The younger Good Sport Daughter is starting indoor lacrosse next week, and the older Good Sport daughter is taking tennis lessons, so I'm sure that I'll very soon have some real life good sport/bad sport examples to share.
In the meantime, enjoy the football game! (And, I hope you'll check out the review if you get a chance.)
Leslie
I wanted to share a review by Perry Perkins, a writer for the Portland Examiner, of The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship, here.
Perry had expressed an interest in seeing a copy of the book, and I was very excited when he contacted me with his review much sooner than I expected. I can't thank him enough!
Word about the book is starting to spread via cutting edge technology (press releases on the web, links, blogs, forums) and simple, practical efforts (one of the Good Sport daughters and I spent the afternoon dropping off book marks at two libraries, the grocery store, a pizzeria, and a toy store, while last week a book store took some actual books to sell). I'm planning a fundraising kit offering the book, a discount that goes to the event and a Good Sport Bad Sport water bottle that I hope to start offering to day cares, schools and sports associations.
(Speaking of cutting edge technology, it's allowing me to multi-task right now by blogging on the web while we watch the New Orleans Saints and the Vikings play for the NFC championship. Not sure who I want to win because the Good Sport Aunt and Uncle and Cousins are transplants to New Orleans ... but the Vikings have their Brett Farve story. And I like purple.)
The younger Good Sport Daughter is starting indoor lacrosse next week, and the older Good Sport daughter is taking tennis lessons, so I'm sure that I'll very soon have some real life good sport/bad sport examples to share.
In the meantime, enjoy the football game! (And, I hope you'll check out the review if you get a chance.)
Leslie
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Enter to win a free copy of The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship
Dear Good Sports,
Just a quick post to let you know that The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship has been entered in a free giveaway contest on Goodreads, a social website for book lovers of all kinds.
The deadline to enter is January 15th, so if you're interested, check out the site.
I'll be back in the New Year with more good and bad sport news and observations.
Happy New Year,
Leslie
Just a quick post to let you know that The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship has been entered in a free giveaway contest on Goodreads, a social website for book lovers of all kinds.
The deadline to enter is January 15th, so if you're interested, check out the site.
I'll be back in the New Year with more good and bad sport news and observations.
Happy New Year,
Leslie
Saturday, December 19, 2009
Good Sportsmanship is Everyone's Responsibility
Dear Good Sports,
While we are enjoying our surprising and exciting down time due to today's blizzard (and while the family puts off cleaning the basement and playroom) I thought it's the perfect time to post a little blog about Good Sportsmanship!
This popped up in my Google Alerts for Good Sportsmanship: The City of Los Angeles Department of Parks and Recreation Sports Registration Form.
A Form? Usually just articles pop up, so I was surprised to see a pdf of an actual registration form. But, in this instance, I couldn't have clicked on anything more interesting or informative.
At the top of the form, below the City's header and above the words Sports Registration Form is the subhead: Good Sportsmanship is Everyone's Responsibility ... Be a Good Sport
Then, within the form on the front is this section requiring a signature:
PARENT'S OATH TO KIDS
I promise to demonstrate good sportsmanship by being a positive role model and encouraging you to play and have fun while supporting you
and your team in both victory and defeat.
Parent/Guardian Signature Date
Then, the entire back of the form is devoted to Good Sportsmanship. The left side is the Player's code of conduct, the right side is the Parent's code of conduct.
Wow -- it's awesome! They're really taking Good Sportsmanship seriously.
Check it out here: The City of Los Angeles Department of Parks and Recreation Sport Registration Form.
The Form really sums it all up! In fact, it makes it so obvious, I don't really even have anything to add. Which means I can't put off cleaning for blogging any longer.
Enjoy the snow if you are in one of the affected parts of the country! Hopefully we'll speed through cleaning and go sledding soon.
Leslie
P.S. Unabashed plug: The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship makes a great gift for kids and parents. Just click the book link to order.
While we are enjoying our surprising and exciting down time due to today's blizzard (and while the family puts off cleaning the basement and playroom) I thought it's the perfect time to post a little blog about Good Sportsmanship!
This popped up in my Google Alerts for Good Sportsmanship: The City of Los Angeles Department of Parks and Recreation Sports Registration Form.
A Form? Usually just articles pop up, so I was surprised to see a pdf of an actual registration form. But, in this instance, I couldn't have clicked on anything more interesting or informative.
At the top of the form, below the City's header and above the words Sports Registration Form is the subhead: Good Sportsmanship is Everyone's Responsibility ... Be a Good Sport
Then, within the form on the front is this section requiring a signature:
PARENT'S OATH TO KIDS
I promise to demonstrate good sportsmanship by being a positive role model and encouraging you to play and have fun while supporting you
and your team in both victory and defeat.
Parent/Guardian Signature Date
Then, the entire back of the form is devoted to Good Sportsmanship. The left side is the Player's code of conduct, the right side is the Parent's code of conduct.
Wow -- it's awesome! They're really taking Good Sportsmanship seriously.
Check it out here: The City of Los Angeles Department of Parks and Recreation Sport Registration Form.
The Form really sums it all up! In fact, it makes it so obvious, I don't really even have anything to add. Which means I can't put off cleaning for blogging any longer.
Enjoy the snow if you are in one of the affected parts of the country! Hopefully we'll speed through cleaning and go sledding soon.
Leslie
P.S. Unabashed plug: The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship makes a great gift for kids and parents. Just click the book link to order.
Sunday, December 6, 2009
The Blind Side
Dear Good Sports,
Just a quick update to tell you that if you haven't seen The Blind Side yet, run, don't walk, to see it.
Good Sport Dad, one of the Good Sport Daughters and I went to see it over the weekend, combining it with a trip to Lowes and Target to find a new, tasteful Christmas inflatable for the front yard. (Besides Thanksgiving weekend last weekend, this was our first weekend without outdoor soccer or outdoor tennis ... and it snowed!)
We really enjoyed the movie. The theatre was full of people of all ages, and everyone loved it. Do yourself a favor and see if it you get the opportunity.
On another subject, I'm excited to tell you that our marketing for The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship is starting to move forward.
Our press release should be going out in the next week or so, and I am in the process of building a Fan Page on Facebook. (The book's actually showing a rank on Amazon as sales start trickling in -- wow.)
And, as soon as I publish this post, I'll be tweeting about it!
That's it for me. Here's hoping you had a great, sports-viewing filed weekend.
Leslie
P.S. About 6 weeks ago, one of my car radio's pre-set FM stations changed from music to ESPN. I have to tell you that I've gotten hooked on all the sports talk shows! In fact, I'm wondering what's going to happen tomorrow (Monday) when Allen Iverson plays with the 76ers!
P.P.S. The inflatable is Snoopy and Woodstock in an airplane with a sign that reads "Seasons Greetings." Good Sport Dad assures me it's tasteful. Hum?
Just a quick update to tell you that if you haven't seen The Blind Side yet, run, don't walk, to see it.
Good Sport Dad, one of the Good Sport Daughters and I went to see it over the weekend, combining it with a trip to Lowes and Target to find a new, tasteful Christmas inflatable for the front yard. (Besides Thanksgiving weekend last weekend, this was our first weekend without outdoor soccer or outdoor tennis ... and it snowed!)
We really enjoyed the movie. The theatre was full of people of all ages, and everyone loved it. Do yourself a favor and see if it you get the opportunity.
On another subject, I'm excited to tell you that our marketing for The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship is starting to move forward.
Our press release should be going out in the next week or so, and I am in the process of building a Fan Page on Facebook. (The book's actually showing a rank on Amazon as sales start trickling in -- wow.)
And, as soon as I publish this post, I'll be tweeting about it!
That's it for me. Here's hoping you had a great, sports-viewing filed weekend.
Leslie
P.S. About 6 weeks ago, one of my car radio's pre-set FM stations changed from music to ESPN. I have to tell you that I've gotten hooked on all the sports talk shows! In fact, I'm wondering what's going to happen tomorrow (Monday) when Allen Iverson plays with the 76ers!
P.P.S. The inflatable is Snoopy and Woodstock in an airplane with a sign that reads "Seasons Greetings." Good Sport Dad assures me it's tasteful. Hum?
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Good Sportsmanship book just published!
Dear Good Sports!
I am writing you today with some exciting news! I've just published The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship through Good Manners Kids Stuff Press.
(As I mentioned last post, you probably aren't surprised to see that it's about good sportsmanship -- since this is the Good Sport Bad Sport Blog!)
I was so excited to check Amazon this morning and see that it was live! I've put the link to Amazon on the side of the blog. Isn't the cover cute?
The book is perfect for children between the ages of 4and 8 to read with their parents. The children will enjoy reading examples about the sports and activities done by children just like them, and you'll pick-up some tips, too. At the end of the book you'll find a cute certificate that child and parent can sign together when you've learned all the ways to be a Good Sport. I hope you'll check it out when you have a moment.
The last month and a half was a flurry of activity getting this book and my other one (a children's fantasy, The Month of Zephram Mondays, available at Good Manners Kids Stuff Press) ready to be printed, so I wasn't able to post at all! I hope not to leave you so long between posts again. In fact, I can't believe that the last time I posted was during the World Series.
Guess I'll do my best to check back in before the Super Bowl!
Leslie
P.S. Looking back over the post for those typos that usually only become blatantly obvious once the blog is published, I see that I used the word cute twice. Hardly a sports-like word. But the cover and certificate really are cute! If I changed one of the cutes to adorable, that would be even worse, don't you think? So, I'm going to leave the cutes there for now!
...although fun could be a fall back choice, too!
I am writing you today with some exciting news! I've just published The Kids' (and parents', too!) Book of Good Sportsmanship through Good Manners Kids Stuff Press.
(As I mentioned last post, you probably aren't surprised to see that it's about good sportsmanship -- since this is the Good Sport Bad Sport Blog!)
I was so excited to check Amazon this morning and see that it was live! I've put the link to Amazon on the side of the blog. Isn't the cover cute?
The book is perfect for children between the ages of 4and 8 to read with their parents. The children will enjoy reading examples about the sports and activities done by children just like them, and you'll pick-up some tips, too. At the end of the book you'll find a cute certificate that child and parent can sign together when you've learned all the ways to be a Good Sport. I hope you'll check it out when you have a moment.
The last month and a half was a flurry of activity getting this book and my other one (a children's fantasy, The Month of Zephram Mondays, available at Good Manners Kids Stuff Press) ready to be printed, so I wasn't able to post at all! I hope not to leave you so long between posts again. In fact, I can't believe that the last time I posted was during the World Series.
Guess I'll do my best to check back in before the Super Bowl!
Leslie
P.S. Looking back over the post for those typos that usually only become blatantly obvious once the blog is published, I see that I used the word cute twice. Hardly a sports-like word. But the cover and certificate really are cute! If I changed one of the cutes to adorable, that would be even worse, don't you think? So, I'm going to leave the cutes there for now!
...although fun could be a fall back choice, too!
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Rain, Rain Go Away!
Dear Good Sports,
As I write to you we have been rained out of all activities for the last 4 days!
Soccer practice, the soccer game, the soccer rain date make-up game and a lacrosse clinic! At least it doesn't seem to be raining on the Phillies as they play the Dodgers right now at Citizen's Bank Park (although the fans are all bundled up because of the cold).
This is just a quick post to stay in touch. In addition to normal back to school and other activities, I've been working on getting 2 books published by Good Manners Kids Stuff press that should be available on Amazon in several weeks. One of the books (surprise, surprise) is on Good Sportsmanship. Nothing preachy, but I think kids and parents will find it cute and easy to relate to!
Quick interruption: the score is 8 - 0 Phillies top of the 6th!
Have no fear, I'll let you know when the books are ready in case you want to check them out.
In the meantime, enjoy the playoffs!
Go Phillies.
Leslie
As I write to you we have been rained out of all activities for the last 4 days!
Soccer practice, the soccer game, the soccer rain date make-up game and a lacrosse clinic! At least it doesn't seem to be raining on the Phillies as they play the Dodgers right now at Citizen's Bank Park (although the fans are all bundled up because of the cold).
This is just a quick post to stay in touch. In addition to normal back to school and other activities, I've been working on getting 2 books published by Good Manners Kids Stuff press that should be available on Amazon in several weeks. One of the books (surprise, surprise) is on Good Sportsmanship. Nothing preachy, but I think kids and parents will find it cute and easy to relate to!
Quick interruption: the score is 8 - 0 Phillies top of the 6th!
Have no fear, I'll let you know when the books are ready in case you want to check them out.
In the meantime, enjoy the playoffs!
Go Phillies.
Leslie
Friday, September 18, 2009
Serena Williams and respecting the line judge
Dear Good Sports,
So much has been written and said about Serena Williams's outburst at the line judge the weekend (and also about those other bad, bad manners moments by Kanye West and Joe Wilson) that I don't know what shatteringly new ground I can cover or new insight I can give you here on the Good Sport Bad Sport Blog -- except for this one important point:
Respect the Officials!
We need to let our children know by our words and actions that it's never alright to talk back to, swear at, or threaten an official. Never.
Okay -- you may agree in theory. Of course, you say, I would never ever say something like that to an official at my child's game/meet/performance. No need to remind me!
But -- what about in practice? Think about last week's soccer game, or the swim meet in July. Did you disagree with a call or a penalty? Did you grumble that the other team got away with something because the ref missed it? Or, maybe when your daughter came in second at the gymnastics competition, you were angry with the judge.
Maybe in practice we really aren't so great!
Courtesy is a hard rule to follow when our kids are disappointed, we're disappointed -- and truly, maybe the official did make a mistake or two.
But so much of how we act in sports and around sports teaches us life lessons that carry over into how we live the rest of lives: lives in which we'll always come across situations where we are judged unfairly or need to learn from our mistakes (and need to control our frustrations and tempers). How we handle and learn from those situations can determine how successful and happy we can be.
That's why recognizing that the Referee/Umpire/Judge/Official is a person who should be respected for their skills and knowledge is an important rule to teach our children and remember to follow ourselves.
The disappointing thing about Serena's behaviour is that because she is a role model for our children, she puts us in the tough position of having to explain that her behaviour in that instance is not acceptable (as much as we may have understood her emotions and anger at that moment). Whether she's asked for it or not, she carries a certain responsibility to her young fans. And, unfortunately, it was just one more very prominent example of how rudeness and bad manners seem to be taking over our society.
Now, respecting the official may not be easy to do if you're used to making comments. Or, if you've also allowed your child to grumble and make comments. But there's one basic courtesy to follow that should make it easier for both of you: if you can't say anything nice about someone, don't say anything at all!
Instead, focus those negative comments and energy into what your child and/or team did do well, or on what she learned, or what he can work on for next week, and you'll have a much more positive outcome and experience.
I'm hoping that my next blog will continue on the theme of "sports and sportsmanship as life lessons" unless some other bad sports moment happens again and needs to be discussed.
Until then,respect the refs -- and have fun!
Leslie
So much has been written and said about Serena Williams's outburst at the line judge the weekend (and also about those other bad, bad manners moments by Kanye West and Joe Wilson) that I don't know what shatteringly new ground I can cover or new insight I can give you here on the Good Sport Bad Sport Blog -- except for this one important point:
Respect the Officials!
We need to let our children know by our words and actions that it's never alright to talk back to, swear at, or threaten an official. Never.
Okay -- you may agree in theory. Of course, you say, I would never ever say something like that to an official at my child's game/meet/performance. No need to remind me!
But -- what about in practice? Think about last week's soccer game, or the swim meet in July. Did you disagree with a call or a penalty? Did you grumble that the other team got away with something because the ref missed it? Or, maybe when your daughter came in second at the gymnastics competition, you were angry with the judge.
Maybe in practice we really aren't so great!
Courtesy is a hard rule to follow when our kids are disappointed, we're disappointed -- and truly, maybe the official did make a mistake or two.
But so much of how we act in sports and around sports teaches us life lessons that carry over into how we live the rest of lives: lives in which we'll always come across situations where we are judged unfairly or need to learn from our mistakes (and need to control our frustrations and tempers). How we handle and learn from those situations can determine how successful and happy we can be.
That's why recognizing that the Referee/Umpire/Judge/Official is a person who should be respected for their skills and knowledge is an important rule to teach our children and remember to follow ourselves.
The disappointing thing about Serena's behaviour is that because she is a role model for our children, she puts us in the tough position of having to explain that her behaviour in that instance is not acceptable (as much as we may have understood her emotions and anger at that moment). Whether she's asked for it or not, she carries a certain responsibility to her young fans. And, unfortunately, it was just one more very prominent example of how rudeness and bad manners seem to be taking over our society.
Now, respecting the official may not be easy to do if you're used to making comments. Or, if you've also allowed your child to grumble and make comments. But there's one basic courtesy to follow that should make it easier for both of you: if you can't say anything nice about someone, don't say anything at all!
Instead, focus those negative comments and energy into what your child and/or team did do well, or on what she learned, or what he can work on for next week, and you'll have a much more positive outcome and experience.
I'm hoping that my next blog will continue on the theme of "sports and sportsmanship as life lessons" unless some other bad sports moment happens again and needs to be discussed.
Until then,respect the refs -- and have fun!
Leslie
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Swimming and Good Sportsmanship
Dear Good Sports,
I'm sure that most -- if not all -- of us watched last year's Summer Olympics in Beijing, especially the swimming with Michael Phelps and Dara Torres.
And, of course most -- if not all -- of us remember the records they both broke and the honors they received.
But for some reason, I completely missed this event for which Dara was honored by the ICFP, the International Committee for Fair Play.
At the women's 50m freestyle event, Dara's competitor, Therese Alshammar of Sweden, had a swimsuit malfunction. Dara convinced the officials to delay the start of the event so that Therese could take care of her problem.
I think Dara's action that day says a lot about her personal values and ethics. It's also a great reminder that the goal of the Olympics, as stated in the Olympic Charter, is to promote and contribute to the practice of sport in a spirit of friendship, solidarity and fair play.
It made me wonder: If that was in the Olympic Charter, what's mentioned in our sports teams' charters?
I decided to research swimming in honor of Ms. Torres. I found charters and mission statements for pools and swim teams from New York to California -- and they all shared variations of the same themes:
*... Empowering young people to be champions in life through excellence in swimming ...
*... Promote interest in the spirit of the sport and fairness in competition
*... Hard work, improvements and personal accomplishment can be more important than winning ...
*... Losing sight of good sportsmanship means the program is not worth sponsoring ...
*... Good sportsmanship for all participants -- swimmers, volunteers, coaches and spectators -- is mandatory ...
*... Foster and promote the values of good sportsmanship, honesty, perseverance and integrity ...
*... The good sportsmanship, honesty, courage, commitment, and perseverance developed through swimming will prepare our young people for the challenges they will face later in life ...
I'll end this sample list with the most important point of all:
*Good Sportsmanship is for all participants: swimmers, volunteers, coaches, parents and spectators!
I think it's really important for our children to know that if Dara Torres demonstrates these values during the most important competitions of her life, when she really wants to win, then we and our children can, too!
Leslie
P.S. The ICFP was established in 1963 to promote "the principles of fair play which are essential to sport."
I'm sure that most -- if not all -- of us watched last year's Summer Olympics in Beijing, especially the swimming with Michael Phelps and Dara Torres.
And, of course most -- if not all -- of us remember the records they both broke and the honors they received.
But for some reason, I completely missed this event for which Dara was honored by the ICFP, the International Committee for Fair Play.
At the women's 50m freestyle event, Dara's competitor, Therese Alshammar of Sweden, had a swimsuit malfunction. Dara convinced the officials to delay the start of the event so that Therese could take care of her problem.
I think Dara's action that day says a lot about her personal values and ethics. It's also a great reminder that the goal of the Olympics, as stated in the Olympic Charter, is to promote and contribute to the practice of sport in a spirit of friendship, solidarity and fair play.
It made me wonder: If that was in the Olympic Charter, what's mentioned in our sports teams' charters?
I decided to research swimming in honor of Ms. Torres. I found charters and mission statements for pools and swim teams from New York to California -- and they all shared variations of the same themes:
*... Empowering young people to be champions in life through excellence in swimming ...
*... Promote interest in the spirit of the sport and fairness in competition
*... Hard work, improvements and personal accomplishment can be more important than winning ...
*... Losing sight of good sportsmanship means the program is not worth sponsoring ...
*... Good sportsmanship for all participants -- swimmers, volunteers, coaches and spectators -- is mandatory ...
*... Foster and promote the values of good sportsmanship, honesty, perseverance and integrity ...
*... The good sportsmanship, honesty, courage, commitment, and perseverance developed through swimming will prepare our young people for the challenges they will face later in life ...
I'll end this sample list with the most important point of all:
*Good Sportsmanship is for all participants: swimmers, volunteers, coaches, parents and spectators!
I think it's really important for our children to know that if Dara Torres demonstrates these values during the most important competitions of her life, when she really wants to win, then we and our children can, too!
Leslie
P.S. The ICFP was established in 1963 to promote "the principles of fair play which are essential to sport."
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Good Sportsmanship Tee Shirts
Dear Good Sports,
Here's an idea that Elmira City School District in New York uses to help promote Good Sportsmanship:
Each week, a boy and a girl who demonstrate good sportsmanship are given a tee shirt in honor of their behavior.
It's all part of a program they developed that won them a New York State Sportsmanship Award from the New York State Public High School Athletic Association.
I think this a really great way to put some fun focus on good sportsmanship for your team's players.
At the start of the season tell the children that the player who shows the most good sportsmanship will be awarded a special tee shirt at the end of season party.
You can have the players come up with the criteria of what they think it means to be a good sport for their sport. You could ask them to design the tee-shirt. You could even have them vote on who should win it (although you may want to have Coach involvement/override so that it doesn't become a popularity contest, defeating the purpose).
By involving them in the project and keeping them excited about the award, it helps the children naturally focus on how to practice good sportmanship. Suddenly, it's not just something the grownups want them to do (and will forget about, they hope), it's something they may even start to do without consciously thinking about it!
So that it becomes part of who they are as a player -- and the values they have as a person. It could all start with a tee shirt. What could be simpler?
Let me know if you try it for your team. I'll be excited to hear how it works.
Leslie
P.S. For another team idea, check out the Good Sport Bad Sport water bottles on www.goodmannerskidsstuff.com.
P.P.S. If enough of you contact me with your tee shirt designs, maybe we could have a contest for the winning shirt design!
Here's an idea that Elmira City School District in New York uses to help promote Good Sportsmanship:
Each week, a boy and a girl who demonstrate good sportsmanship are given a tee shirt in honor of their behavior.
It's all part of a program they developed that won them a New York State Sportsmanship Award from the New York State Public High School Athletic Association.
I think this a really great way to put some fun focus on good sportsmanship for your team's players.
At the start of the season tell the children that the player who shows the most good sportsmanship will be awarded a special tee shirt at the end of season party.
You can have the players come up with the criteria of what they think it means to be a good sport for their sport. You could ask them to design the tee-shirt. You could even have them vote on who should win it (although you may want to have Coach involvement/override so that it doesn't become a popularity contest, defeating the purpose).
By involving them in the project and keeping them excited about the award, it helps the children naturally focus on how to practice good sportmanship. Suddenly, it's not just something the grownups want them to do (and will forget about, they hope), it's something they may even start to do without consciously thinking about it!
So that it becomes part of who they are as a player -- and the values they have as a person. It could all start with a tee shirt. What could be simpler?
Let me know if you try it for your team. I'll be excited to hear how it works.
Leslie
P.S. For another team idea, check out the Good Sport Bad Sport water bottles on www.goodmannerskidsstuff.com.
P.P.S. If enough of you contact me with your tee shirt designs, maybe we could have a contest for the winning shirt design!
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Good sportsmanship -- more than just sports
Hello, Good Sports!
As many of us get ready for a new school year (hard to believe that some schools are already back) I wanted to share some information from an article by Dr. Michele Borba about "Poor Loser attitude."
Now, you can probably guess what Poor Loser Attitude and the Good Sport Bad Sport Blog have in common: poor losers are bad sports.
And you can probably guess what Poor Loser Attitude and the new school year have in common: poor losers in football, soccer and other fall sports.
But there's another reason to talk about Poor Loser Attitude and the new school year.
Poor loser attitude isn't just about sports -- it's a trait (or ailment, according to Dr. Borba) that affects children's attitudes in class, in relationships and other activities, too. And a new school year is the perfect time to rid your child of his or her bad attitude.
Dr. Borba lists 7 solutions to stop poor loser attitudes and boost sportsmanship but I wanted to talk about this one because I think it's a great reminder for us all:
Stopping Poor Loser Attitude starts with us (you and me).
Children learn much of what they know and how they act from us at home. If we parents make excuses for our behavior or blame others, or criticize Coach -- what do we think our children learn? A new school year is a great time for us to stop our own poor loser attitude -- and start providing good modeling moments for our children.
So, parents -- I'll be making sure that I'm a little more careful about what I say and do, doing my part to keep Poor Loser Attitude away from our house.
I hope you will, too.
Leslie
As many of us get ready for a new school year (hard to believe that some schools are already back) I wanted to share some information from an article by Dr. Michele Borba about "Poor Loser attitude."
Now, you can probably guess what Poor Loser Attitude and the Good Sport Bad Sport Blog have in common: poor losers are bad sports.
And you can probably guess what Poor Loser Attitude and the new school year have in common: poor losers in football, soccer and other fall sports.
But there's another reason to talk about Poor Loser Attitude and the new school year.
Poor loser attitude isn't just about sports -- it's a trait (or ailment, according to Dr. Borba) that affects children's attitudes in class, in relationships and other activities, too. And a new school year is the perfect time to rid your child of his or her bad attitude.
Dr. Borba lists 7 solutions to stop poor loser attitudes and boost sportsmanship but I wanted to talk about this one because I think it's a great reminder for us all:
Stopping Poor Loser Attitude starts with us (you and me).
Children learn much of what they know and how they act from us at home. If we parents make excuses for our behavior or blame others, or criticize Coach -- what do we think our children learn? A new school year is a great time for us to stop our own poor loser attitude -- and start providing good modeling moments for our children.
So, parents -- I'll be making sure that I'm a little more careful about what I say and do, doing my part to keep Poor Loser Attitude away from our house.
I hope you will, too.
Leslie
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Good Sportsmanship Award
Dear Good Sports,
I receive Google Alerts for various topics and I wanted to share this one with you.
Included in the Alert for good sportsmanship was an article by Jeff Edwards of the Natchez Democrat (Mississippi).
The headline of this article was "Natchez 10-year-old All-Stars win Sportsmanship Award."
The Natchez 10 team played in the Dixie Youth State Tournament against other All-Star teams their age from the state. The tournament also included 8 and 12-year-old-age groups as well who were eligible to win the award.
According to the article, the Houston Stuckey Sportsmanship Award (named in honor of the late Houston Stuckey, the Dixie Youth state director) is voted on by the tournament umpires and officials and awarded to the team whose players, coaches and fans "best exhibited integrity, character, discipline and sportsmanship."
Natchez Dixie Youth Commissioner Porky Smith said " ... the kids acted like young men when they got to the park, when they were on the playing field and when the game was over, win or lose. You didn't see any pouting. They showed they were fine young men, and they're just 10-year-olds."
(The players didn't win the tournament, but finished runner up.)
As "feel good" as this article is, that's not why I really wanted to share it with you. The reason is this last comment from their coach, Gary Farmer:
"... it all starts at home ... (the parents) raised a good group of younguns ... I have 12 great kids who have some great parents. They were always 100% behind the kids as well as the coaches."
Just a little reminder of the important role we Moms and Dads play in our children's sports development, sports enjoyment and sports behavior.
Until my next Good Sport (or Bad Sport) post,
Leslie
I receive Google Alerts for various topics and I wanted to share this one with you.
Included in the Alert for good sportsmanship was an article by Jeff Edwards of the Natchez Democrat (Mississippi).
The headline of this article was "Natchez 10-year-old All-Stars win Sportsmanship Award."
The Natchez 10 team played in the Dixie Youth State Tournament against other All-Star teams their age from the state. The tournament also included 8 and 12-year-old-age groups as well who were eligible to win the award.
According to the article, the Houston Stuckey Sportsmanship Award (named in honor of the late Houston Stuckey, the Dixie Youth state director) is voted on by the tournament umpires and officials and awarded to the team whose players, coaches and fans "best exhibited integrity, character, discipline and sportsmanship."
Natchez Dixie Youth Commissioner Porky Smith said " ... the kids acted like young men when they got to the park, when they were on the playing field and when the game was over, win or lose. You didn't see any pouting. They showed they were fine young men, and they're just 10-year-olds."
(The players didn't win the tournament, but finished runner up.)
As "feel good" as this article is, that's not why I really wanted to share it with you. The reason is this last comment from their coach, Gary Farmer:
"... it all starts at home ... (the parents) raised a good group of younguns ... I have 12 great kids who have some great parents. They were always 100% behind the kids as well as the coaches."
Just a little reminder of the important role we Moms and Dads play in our children's sports development, sports enjoyment and sports behavior.
Until my next Good Sport (or Bad Sport) post,
Leslie
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Fall Soccer
Dear Good Sports:
How are you? I apologize for not being in contact with you for a couple of weeks. We were away on vacation and are just getting back into the swing of things.
On the Home-Sports Front, Coach Dad just signed up to be Assistant Coach for our younger daughter's soccer team. Practice and games start in September. It's hard to believe that school and Fall Sports are practically here already!
On the General-Sports Front, I need to wrap my head around several sports topics and check in with my contributors about their future blogs. Consequently, this post is tiny -- so I hope you'll check back soon for a bigger, more interesting post!
Until then,
Leslie
How are you? I apologize for not being in contact with you for a couple of weeks. We were away on vacation and are just getting back into the swing of things.
On the Home-Sports Front, Coach Dad just signed up to be Assistant Coach for our younger daughter's soccer team. Practice and games start in September. It's hard to believe that school and Fall Sports are practically here already!
On the General-Sports Front, I need to wrap my head around several sports topics and check in with my contributors about their future blogs. Consequently, this post is tiny -- so I hope you'll check back soon for a bigger, more interesting post!
Until then,
Leslie
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Have sports stopped being fun?
Dear Good Sport,
I read an interesting article online by a gentleman named Carleton Kendrick (on familyeducation.com).
The topic was "Why Most Kids Quit Sports," and I wanted to share it with you.
He quotes an alarming statistic from The National Alliance for Sports: 70% of children quit playing league sports (hockey, football, baseball, soccer and other competitive sports) by age 13.
The number 1 reason why? Because it stopped being fun.
We've placed so much emphasis on performance that many children feel they can't live up to the expectations of their parents and coaches.
We've placed so much emphasis on learning skills that we've squelched the passion of learning the sport.
We've placed so much emphasis on competition that we've forgotten how much fun it is to just get out there and play!
So in honor of Summer Vacation, why not help your kids put the Fun back into Sports!
Whether it's a pick-up game with friends or having a catch in the backyard with Dad or an older brother or sister, the emphasis should be fun. No stressing about the rules, no stressing about their performance -- just playing for fun.
There's always time during the rest of the year to emphasize everything else -- but this Summer, a little play time just might be the right time to help your kids remember that sports are fun.
And, ultimately, it can help them stay in love with sports and remain physically active throughout their lives.
Until I post again, here's wishing you a happy, fun and active Summer!
Leslie
I read an interesting article online by a gentleman named Carleton Kendrick (on familyeducation.com).
The topic was "Why Most Kids Quit Sports," and I wanted to share it with you.
He quotes an alarming statistic from The National Alliance for Sports: 70% of children quit playing league sports (hockey, football, baseball, soccer and other competitive sports) by age 13.
The number 1 reason why? Because it stopped being fun.
We've placed so much emphasis on performance that many children feel they can't live up to the expectations of their parents and coaches.
We've placed so much emphasis on learning skills that we've squelched the passion of learning the sport.
We've placed so much emphasis on competition that we've forgotten how much fun it is to just get out there and play!
So in honor of Summer Vacation, why not help your kids put the Fun back into Sports!
Whether it's a pick-up game with friends or having a catch in the backyard with Dad or an older brother or sister, the emphasis should be fun. No stressing about the rules, no stressing about their performance -- just playing for fun.
There's always time during the rest of the year to emphasize everything else -- but this Summer, a little play time just might be the right time to help your kids remember that sports are fun.
And, ultimately, it can help them stay in love with sports and remain physically active throughout their lives.
Until I post again, here's wishing you a happy, fun and active Summer!
Leslie
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Coach's tough decision
Dear Good Sports,
I was out with some parents the other day and heard something that I wanted to share with you.
At one of the children's recent games, one of the players really had an attitude. He was acting out a lot and wouldn't listen to Coach Mary. He was really disrupting the game. He even started walking off the field when he was annoyed. Coach told him if he left the field, he was out of the game.
I'm sure you know what came next: with that ultimatum, the boy turned and walked off.
The Coach called in a sub and the game continued.
I'm sure you won't be surprised to hear that about 5 minutes later the boy returned to the game and fully expected to be allowed back into the game. But Coach Mary remained firm: "You disobeyed me. I told you what would happen if you left the field. You chose to leave so you can't play anymore today."
Now -- this boy is a star player. When he left the game, his team started losing. By keeping him out of the game, the team lost. Of course, some of the other parents and kids were mad that she wouldn't let the boy back into the game.
Coach Mary stood firm with her decision. The player needed to respect and listen to his coach and behave in a way that helped his team, not hurt it.
I'm sure you can see Coach Mary made a tough decision -- and understand why she did it, even if, in your heart of hearts, you might not have wanted the team to lose and think you might have been a little more lenient. She surely didn't want the team to lose, either.
But by showing the boy that his actions had consequences by enforcing the consequences, Coach Mary made the hard choice to potentially sacrifice this game for, hopefully, a better, stronger, happier season and team going forward. (A lesson that can extend into behaviour off the ball field, too.)
Maybe not a popular choice, but certainly the right one.
Blog you again, soon, with some more Good Sport Bad Sport topics.
Leslie
P.S. Our book on Good Sportsmanship is being published by Good Manners Kids Stuff Press and will be available on Amazon soon. Watch our posts for more information or visit www.goodmannerskidsstuffpress.blogspot.com to read all the behind the scenes activity behind the publication.
I was out with some parents the other day and heard something that I wanted to share with you.
At one of the children's recent games, one of the players really had an attitude. He was acting out a lot and wouldn't listen to Coach Mary. He was really disrupting the game. He even started walking off the field when he was annoyed. Coach told him if he left the field, he was out of the game.
I'm sure you know what came next: with that ultimatum, the boy turned and walked off.
The Coach called in a sub and the game continued.
I'm sure you won't be surprised to hear that about 5 minutes later the boy returned to the game and fully expected to be allowed back into the game. But Coach Mary remained firm: "You disobeyed me. I told you what would happen if you left the field. You chose to leave so you can't play anymore today."
Now -- this boy is a star player. When he left the game, his team started losing. By keeping him out of the game, the team lost. Of course, some of the other parents and kids were mad that she wouldn't let the boy back into the game.
Coach Mary stood firm with her decision. The player needed to respect and listen to his coach and behave in a way that helped his team, not hurt it.
I'm sure you can see Coach Mary made a tough decision -- and understand why she did it, even if, in your heart of hearts, you might not have wanted the team to lose and think you might have been a little more lenient. She surely didn't want the team to lose, either.
But by showing the boy that his actions had consequences by enforcing the consequences, Coach Mary made the hard choice to potentially sacrifice this game for, hopefully, a better, stronger, happier season and team going forward. (A lesson that can extend into behaviour off the ball field, too.)
Maybe not a popular choice, but certainly the right one.
Blog you again, soon, with some more Good Sport Bad Sport topics.
Leslie
P.S. Our book on Good Sportsmanship is being published by Good Manners Kids Stuff Press and will be available on Amazon soon. Watch our posts for more information or visit www.goodmannerskidsstuffpress.blogspot.com to read all the behind the scenes activity behind the publication.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Don't make my child play defense
Dear Good Sports,
It may shock you to hear that parents sometimes freely offer up their opinion to their child's coach as to what position their child should or should not play.
You're shocked, shocked, you say.
Who would do that, you wonder. Who?
That person would have some nerve, you say. How obnoxious.
Except that ... my son really wants to score a goal.
Or ...
My daughter is bored waiting for action at the other end of the field.
Those are different situations -- surely the coach understands and will put my child on offense. After all -- he/she really wants to do it.
Well, Coach understands all too well that the kids (and the parents) may have some preconceived ideas about the positions they want to play (or want their kids to play).
No one would argue that there's something spectacular about the winning touch down by the quarterback and the running back. Wanting that for your child is completely understandable (and okay, maybe re-living your dream is understandable, too).
But there's a whole field full of positions that make just as vital a contribution to that winning play as the quarterback and running back. And the children will never know if they could excel at them if they don't ever have the opportunity to play or learn them.
My husband, Bill, was at the Lacrosse Coaches Wrap Up meeting this evening. One topic of discussion was the fact that some of the parents demand that their children don't play any of the defensive positions.
Now, this is coaching for the younger, beginning players -- not for older, experienced kids. The league rule is and always will be that all kids play all positions. However unpopular this rule always is with outspoken parents, this year was no exception. The league position is that it gives the kids a chance to learn and understand the complete game -- and gives them the opportunity to find out at which position they're really good (had to retype that so as not to end with a preposition --I was an English major, after all).
The funny thing is that the child of one of the most adamant parents turned out to be REALLY good at defense, rather than attack. If the coach had given into the parent's demand, the little girl would never have found out how good she was at defense. And when she excelled, she really started loving lacrosse.
So what's the Good Sport Bad Sport blog message tonight?
Your coach is always right.
(Just kidding. Coach Bill wanted me to say that.)
But seriously -- in this instance, Coach is right. So, let your child play defense. She'll also get a chance to play offense. And you'll all get to see which position is best for her.
Blog you soon with another Good Sport Bad Sport Topic,
Leslie
P.S. "The Coach is always right" is not to be confused with "The Coach always makes my child play defense," a topic that we'll cover in another post.
P.P.S. Our book on Good Sportsmanship is being published by Good Manners Kids Stuff Press and will be available on Amazon soon. Watch our posts for more information or visit www.goodmannerskidsstuffpress.blogspot.com to read all the behind the scenes activity behind the publication.
It may shock you to hear that parents sometimes freely offer up their opinion to their child's coach as to what position their child should or should not play.
You're shocked, shocked, you say.
Who would do that, you wonder. Who?
That person would have some nerve, you say. How obnoxious.
Except that ... my son really wants to score a goal.
Or ...
My daughter is bored waiting for action at the other end of the field.
Those are different situations -- surely the coach understands and will put my child on offense. After all -- he/she really wants to do it.
Well, Coach understands all too well that the kids (and the parents) may have some preconceived ideas about the positions they want to play (or want their kids to play).
No one would argue that there's something spectacular about the winning touch down by the quarterback and the running back. Wanting that for your child is completely understandable (and okay, maybe re-living your dream is understandable, too).
But there's a whole field full of positions that make just as vital a contribution to that winning play as the quarterback and running back. And the children will never know if they could excel at them if they don't ever have the opportunity to play or learn them.
My husband, Bill, was at the Lacrosse Coaches Wrap Up meeting this evening. One topic of discussion was the fact that some of the parents demand that their children don't play any of the defensive positions.
Now, this is coaching for the younger, beginning players -- not for older, experienced kids. The league rule is and always will be that all kids play all positions. However unpopular this rule always is with outspoken parents, this year was no exception. The league position is that it gives the kids a chance to learn and understand the complete game -- and gives them the opportunity to find out at which position they're really good (had to retype that so as not to end with a preposition --I was an English major, after all).
The funny thing is that the child of one of the most adamant parents turned out to be REALLY good at defense, rather than attack. If the coach had given into the parent's demand, the little girl would never have found out how good she was at defense. And when she excelled, she really started loving lacrosse.
So what's the Good Sport Bad Sport blog message tonight?
Your coach is always right.
(Just kidding. Coach Bill wanted me to say that.)
But seriously -- in this instance, Coach is right. So, let your child play defense. She'll also get a chance to play offense. And you'll all get to see which position is best for her.
Blog you soon with another Good Sport Bad Sport Topic,
Leslie
P.S. "The Coach is always right" is not to be confused with "The Coach always makes my child play defense," a topic that we'll cover in another post.
P.P.S. Our book on Good Sportsmanship is being published by Good Manners Kids Stuff Press and will be available on Amazon soon. Watch our posts for more information or visit www.goodmannerskidsstuffpress.blogspot.com to read all the behind the scenes activity behind the publication.
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Thoughts on Good Sportsmanship by Kim Ryan, PE Teacher
Dear Good Sports,
I'm excited to introduce our first Guest Poster!
Her name is Kim Ryan. She is the PE Teacher at New Eagle Elementary School where our family goes. As it's the season for Field Days (she ran New Eagle's yesterday), her observations on good sportsmanship are right on time.
When I ask one of my students what a good sport is they usually tell me one of the following – all of which are true: It means
- Shaking hands after a game
- Not bragging
- Playing fair
- Not being a sore loser
- Saying good game
What about:
1. When someone else wins – that doesn’t mean that they cheated.
2. Being respectful of the game and the other team - not bending or stretching the rules to get an edge or trying to annihilate or run up the score on the other team.
3. Athletes complementing each other on a move, play, and win - whether they are a team mate or not.
4. Be genuinely happy for someone else winning.
5. Not always tagging or getting out the people you know you can get out – challenge yourself to get that really hard player.
6. Sometimes letting someone score just because you know it’s that much harder for them and they hardly ever score.
7. Include everyone on your team – whether they are really good or not.
8. Cut someone else a break – especially when they aren’t as good as you at something.
9. Let your accomplishments speak for themselves without tooting your own horn.
10. Being a respectful winner and loser.
Unfortunately too much emphasis is placed on whether a team wins or loses. When we ask students/children how was the game they always answer with whether they won or lost. I feel we need to turn the focus on the game itself. Spend more of your conversation on were there any great plays, saves, moves, what player really impressed you, are you proud of any plays you did, did you try any new strategies or skills you’ve been practicing, etc. The spirit of the game and how it is played is what is important – not necessarily the score at the end. It’s kind of like life – I hope my students grow up to be kind, considerate, respectful, compassionate, hard working, honest members of society. In my opinion sports should be a reflection of how I hope my students will live their life.
Many thanks, Mrs. Ryan, for your insights which can --and should --be followed by kids of all ages!
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Leslie
I'm excited to introduce our first Guest Poster!
Her name is Kim Ryan. She is the PE Teacher at New Eagle Elementary School where our family goes. As it's the season for Field Days (she ran New Eagle's yesterday), her observations on good sportsmanship are right on time.
Thoughts on Good Sportsmanship
by Kim Ryan, Elementary PE Teacher, New Eagle Elementary
When I ask one of my students what a good sport is they usually tell me one of the following – all of which are true: It means
- Shaking hands after a game
- Not bragging
- Playing fair
- Not being a sore loser
- Saying good game
What about:
1. When someone else wins – that doesn’t mean that they cheated.
2. Being respectful of the game and the other team - not bending or stretching the rules to get an edge or trying to annihilate or run up the score on the other team.
3. Athletes complementing each other on a move, play, and win - whether they are a team mate or not.
4. Be genuinely happy for someone else winning.
5. Not always tagging or getting out the people you know you can get out – challenge yourself to get that really hard player.
6. Sometimes letting someone score just because you know it’s that much harder for them and they hardly ever score.
7. Include everyone on your team – whether they are really good or not.
8. Cut someone else a break – especially when they aren’t as good as you at something.
9. Let your accomplishments speak for themselves without tooting your own horn.
10. Being a respectful winner and loser.
Unfortunately too much emphasis is placed on whether a team wins or loses. When we ask students/children how was the game they always answer with whether they won or lost. I feel we need to turn the focus on the game itself. Spend more of your conversation on were there any great plays, saves, moves, what player really impressed you, are you proud of any plays you did, did you try any new strategies or skills you’ve been practicing, etc. The spirit of the game and how it is played is what is important – not necessarily the score at the end. It’s kind of like life – I hope my students grow up to be kind, considerate, respectful, compassionate, hard working, honest members of society. In my opinion sports should be a reflection of how I hope my students will live their life.
Check back soon for more Good Sport thoughts, comments, stories, and more!
Leslie
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